You think spam is annoying ? Let me tell you a spam story that
is beyond annoying and well past anger – and it isn’t about
receiving a few annoying advertisements in your Inbox. It’s
about a particular internet species whom I shall call amateur
spam cops. Let me explain.
I am writing this article as a warning. From time to time I
write business articles for newsletters as a means of promoting
my web site. An article of mine was recently picked up from an
article-announcement list by a larger-than-usual number of
newsletters.
For a while, it was great ! My resource box (similar to the one
below), pointed to my web site and, during this one week in
particular, the hit counter was going crazy. I had ten times the
normal number of visitors.
And then disaster struck. The hit counter slammed to a halt.
Suddenly I was getting numerous emails from potential customers
telling me that my site was down. Now, I had been with Virtual
Avenue for about 3 years and never had a problem, so I thought
maybe it was just a temporary glitch and that the site would be
back up the next day or something. I visited their support page
& asked them politely to investigate.
After visiting the site, I began reading my emails again (I get
about 120 per day, and I download my email twice a day), and
came across a robot message from their abuse department. The
message told me that a spamming complaint had been received and
that they were shutting me down in 48 hours. Well that was
nonsense for a start – they had already shut down all my sites !
The message said that I had spammed someone by sending them a
newsletter. I quote –
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We regret to inform you that your account dwr9760 will be
deleted from our servers within the next 48 hours because it
violates our Terms of Service, found at
http://www.virtualave.net /account/policies os
Reason: Spam complaints [1311819] Subject: whatUseek Weekly -
The Stealth Approach To Making Money On The Internet
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For those of you not into the internet marketing scene, “WhatU
Seek Weekly” is a pretty useful newsletter for business ideas &
marketing tips. I have subscribed to it for about a year. They
recently ran an article of mine called “Any Fool Can Choose The
Wrong Career”.
It took me a few minutes of hard thinking to figure out the
connection, but once I worked it out, I was shocked at the power
these amateur spam cops now have. An accusation appears to be as
good as a conviction, at least in the eyes of Virtual Avenue.
It appears this is what happened: for whatever reason, a
disgruntled subscriber has been unable to unsubscribe from the
WhatUSeek newsletter. So instead of just complaining straight to
the publishers of this newsletter, or even to the Host of the
newsletter web page, they decided to get VERY nasty and file
spam reports against every link & email address that they can
find within that newsletter (and it is normally quite a big
newsletter !).
So this person sees my harmless article, checks out the resource
box and sends off a spam report to the Host of my advertised web
page. Even though I have never sent an email to this person in my life !
In response to a single unsubstantiated report, Virtual Avenue IMMEDIATELY
shuts down all my web sites without any warning.
Numerous further emails were exchanged over the next few days,
with the “support” people (now there’s an inappropriate title)
refusing to reinstate my web sites, even though they eventually
acknowledged I was not a publisher of the newsletter and had not
spammed anyone. They had received robot complaints from Spam Cop
and were determined that someone was going to suffer for it. I
was simply guilty by association.
Meanwhile, I have been spending at least 30 minutes daily responding to
all the emails complaining about the site being down, not to mention the
many hours involved with shifting the websites elsewhere. I have lost
bucket-loads of customers due to a false accusation and a trigger-happy Host
who seems anxious to shut-down its own members.
So next time you get annoyed by unsolicted commercial email in your Inbox,
just remember – it could be worse. At least these pests aren’t actively trying
to close down your business.
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In my work as a coach and therapist, I have seen many clients dealing with losses of all kindsloss of loved ones through death and divorce, for instance. These experiences are difficult for everyone.
Stages of Recovery from Loss
There are some predictable stages that most people pass through after losing something or someone important. In her work on death and dying, Elisabeth Kbler-Ross outlined five stages of grieving.
Shock and Denial: The first reaction to loss is often the inability to feel anything. This may include feeling numb, weak, overwhelmed, anxious, not yourself, or withdrawn.
Anger: Blaming yourself or others for the loss.
Bargaining: “If you’ll just let him live, I’ll promise to go to church every Sunday for the rest of my life.”
Depression: Feeling deep sadness, disturbed sleep and eating patterns, thoughts of suicide, excessive crying.
Acceptance: Beginning to look for the lessons of the experience.
Kbler-Ross said that the grieving process involves experiencing all five stages, although not always in this order. She also said that people often cycle back and forth through a number of the stages before coming to the stage of acceptance.
Kinds of Losses
Some examples of significant losses are:
• Loss of a person through death
• Divorce
• Job loss
• Loss of your good health when you are diagnosed with a disease
• Loss of a body part through accident or surgery
• Loss of an ability, such as blindness
• Loss of a friend who has moved
• Loss of everything familiar when you move away
Each kind of loss affects each person in a different way, but the recovery process usually follows Kbler-Ross’s five stages.
Recovering from Loss: Some Key Points
1. You are responsible for your own grief process. No one can tell you how to grieve, and no one will do your grieving for you. It is hard work and you must manage the process by yourself.
2. The grief process has a purpose. It is to help you learn to accept the reality of the loss and to learn from the experience.
3. Remind yourself that your grief will end. You will not feel like this forever. You will heal.
4. Take care of your health. Grief is extremely stressful, and it requires energy to manage the stress.
5. Be careful with food and drink. While it may be tempting to numb the pain with food and drink, this can lead to the additional problems of alcohol dependence and overweight. Also, numbing the pain means you are prolonging denial. This will make your grieving process longer.
6. Talk about the person who is no longer in your life. People sometimes avoid talking about the loss as a denial mechanism. However, this prolongs denial and the grieving process.
7. Take time to be alone. In the days and weeks following the loss of a loved one, there is often a flurry of activity with many visitors and phone calls. Added to the stress of your loss, this can be completely exhausting. People will understand if you don’t answer the phone for an afternoon or go to your room and close the door for a while.
Don’t make any important decisions until your life feels more balanced. It can be tempting to make some important change right after a major loss as an effort to feel
more in control.
8. Maintain a normal routine if you can. You have enough changes in your life right now. Try to get up in the morning, go to bed at night, and take your meals at the same times you usually do.
9. Ask for help. You will need it. If you don’t want to be alone, or if you want someone to take you somewhere, it is okay to ask. People don’t expect you to be self-sufficient right now.
10. Let people help you. People want to help because it gives them a way to express their feelings. Staying connected with people is especially important now, and accepting help is a way of staying connected.
11. Keep a journal of your feelings and experiences during the grief process. Writing about your feelings helps you express them, rather than keeping them inside. It also gives you something to remember and review in the future, which you will appreciate.
Writing about your feelings helps you express them, rather than keeping them inside.
12. Avoid making extreme life changes after a major loss. Don’t make any important decisions until your life feels more balanced. It can be tempting to make some important changes right after a major loss as an effort to feel more in control. If you can, put off such changes and decisions until later.
13. Don’t hurry your grief process. People sometimes want to put their feelings and memories behind them because they are painful. But grieving takes time, and there are no shortcuts.
14. Remind yourself that although grief hurts, it will not harm you. Grief is painful, but you will survive and even grow from the experience.
15. Expect to regress in your recovery process from time to time. This is normal. It may happen unexpectedly, but it probably won’t last long.
16. Acknowledge the anniversary of your loss by taking the day off or doing something special. Have supportive people ready to be with you. It could be a difficult day and it’s better not to be alone.
How to Help Someone Who
Is Grieving
1. Don’t try to get them to feel or be anything but what they are.
2. Don’t reward them for acting cheerful or “like your old self.” This teaches them to suppress their feelings around you.
3. Don’t avoid them. They need your support.
4. Let them tell about the loss again and again, if they need to.
5. Recognize that unexpected, perhaps inappropriate behavior is part of the grieving process. It means the bereaved person is moving forward.
Garrett Coan is a professional therapist,coach and psychotherapist. His two Northern New Jersey office locations are accessible to individuals who reside in Bergen County, Essex County, Passaic County, Rockland County, and Manhattan. He offers online and phone/telephone counseling services for those who live at a distance. He can be accessed through http://www.creativecounselors.com or 201-303-4303.
World wide web based gaming internet sites are all regulated by means of 3 organizations. These are named OSGA (the Offshore Gaming Association), the IGC (Interactive Gaming Council) and finally the Fidelity Trust Gaming Association FTGA.
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